As a child, you know you’ve got a good friend when you can both share secrets. Sharing secrets about your school crush, future dreams, embarrassing moments, etc. actually helped make the bond of friendship stronger. Especially if you have inside jokes with each other, this is like a secret code of intimacy. You know just how much you can trust your friend from how well they keep your secret and how much they share with you. Knowing these secret details about each other strengthened your friendship. So it’s no surprise that this could also apply in your romantic relationship.
As counterintuitive as it may sound, it’s healthy to have secrets in your relationship. Of course this is as long as the secrets are shared with your partner and not kept from him/her. Secrets in a relationship are not always bad and a romantic relationship should not be without a few good secrets (ie. your favorite weekend getaway together, how wasted you got, or what you did after getting wasted). These are secrets that you share with your partner that bring you closer. These can be experiences or intimate thoughts that only you and your partner share with each other.
With the easy access to the internet these days, it seems that hardly anything is kept secret for long anymore. What you share with your partner can also be shared with anyone online. Even the most private moments can easily be shared online for anyone to see. Of course if this floats your boat, I have no objections. But as a word of caution, consider keeping the most private moments in a secret folder on your computer. You’ll get a better rush knowing that it’s there but only the two of you know about it. So what’s your dirty little secret?
As counterintuitive as it may sound, it’s healthy to have secrets in your relationship. Of course this is as long as the secrets are shared with your partner and not kept from him/her. Secrets in a relationship are not always bad and a romantic relationship should not be without a few good secrets (ie. your favorite weekend getaway together, how wasted you got, or what you did after getting wasted). These are secrets that you share with your partner that bring you closer. These can be experiences or intimate thoughts that only you and your partner share with each other.
With the easy access to the internet these days, it seems that hardly anything is kept secret for long anymore. What you share with your partner can also be shared with anyone online. Even the most private moments can easily be shared online for anyone to see. Of course if this floats your boat, I have no objections. But as a word of caution, consider keeping the most private moments in a secret folder on your computer. You’ll get a better rush knowing that it’s there but only the two of you know about it. So what’s your dirty little secret?
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