Valentine's day, most people either love it or hate it. The day is either filled with the celebration of love or met with high expectations. Although I believe that the commercialization of this day has contributed to unnecessary pressure for a relationship, I still see that the idea of a day for love is healthy for all relationships.
Did you notice that commercials for jewelry skyrocketed in the weeks before Valentine's day? Of course it makes sense that companies would advertise early and get you interested in their product. However, this can create an unrealistic expectation that this day is all about getting jewelry, chocolates, red roses or three course meals. It can also bring on negative financial consequences for a relationship since these gifts and romantic dinners are not always cheap. So instead of giving jewelry, chocolates, or red roses on Valentine's day, this year focus on giving your partner a happy and fulfilling relationship as a gift.
This can look something like: a homemade dinner of your partner's favorite dish, an evening of massage and more, a night out or in without your children, or anything else you both would enjoy doing together. Furthermore, you can use this day to build a ritual together as a couple. So if you like having dinner at a favorite restaurant, make this a yearly tradition and build memories for the future. Don't worry, you can always mix it up if things feel repetitive. The ritual is not just about the restaurant, but more so about spending the evening together.
The last thing to remember about Valentine's day is that it shouldn't end once the 15th rolls around. Take the time to celebrate your love in smaller ways. Romance and love is not just about that one awesome once a year date or gift, it's more about the day to day gifts you give each other. Gifts like the sexy glance you give your partner before you shower, the long kiss before leaving for work, or acknowledging when your partner has had a rough day at work. These small day to day moments when you could have went about your usual business in the bathroom, rushed off to work or complained about your day, but instead you took the time for your partner. These are the moments of romance and love, and these are the moments that build a happy and fulfilling relationship. Best of all, there's no price tag attached here.
Did you notice that commercials for jewelry skyrocketed in the weeks before Valentine's day? Of course it makes sense that companies would advertise early and get you interested in their product. However, this can create an unrealistic expectation that this day is all about getting jewelry, chocolates, red roses or three course meals. It can also bring on negative financial consequences for a relationship since these gifts and romantic dinners are not always cheap. So instead of giving jewelry, chocolates, or red roses on Valentine's day, this year focus on giving your partner a happy and fulfilling relationship as a gift.
This can look something like: a homemade dinner of your partner's favorite dish, an evening of massage and more, a night out or in without your children, or anything else you both would enjoy doing together. Furthermore, you can use this day to build a ritual together as a couple. So if you like having dinner at a favorite restaurant, make this a yearly tradition and build memories for the future. Don't worry, you can always mix it up if things feel repetitive. The ritual is not just about the restaurant, but more so about spending the evening together.
The last thing to remember about Valentine's day is that it shouldn't end once the 15th rolls around. Take the time to celebrate your love in smaller ways. Romance and love is not just about that one awesome once a year date or gift, it's more about the day to day gifts you give each other. Gifts like the sexy glance you give your partner before you shower, the long kiss before leaving for work, or acknowledging when your partner has had a rough day at work. These small day to day moments when you could have went about your usual business in the bathroom, rushed off to work or complained about your day, but instead you took the time for your partner. These are the moments of romance and love, and these are the moments that build a happy and fulfilling relationship. Best of all, there's no price tag attached here.
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