When you're starting a new relationship, you look forward to first time experiences with your partner. These are usually the first date, first kiss, first "I love you", first dance, etc. These are the sweet memories that bring a couple closer together and usually you experience them when you both are at your best. However, if you've been in a relationship for awhile, you know that there are also some not so "sweet" firsts. Although these firsts can be embarrassing or difficult when they happen, these relationship firsts are just as important in solidifying your bond with your partner. If you haven't experienced these firsts, then you soon will as your relationship progresses. And when you do experience them without running away, you can be sure that you're on your way towards a serious commitment.
1. First Crisis
This can be anything from losing your job, losing a family member, dealing with cheating, or being a victim of a crime. Your first crisis will truly challenge your relationship because you will need to openly communicate with your partner, but may not feel like you can. Your first crisis will also bring out how you and your partner handle stress. This is the point where serious decisions need to be made about resolving the crisis, what your partner and the relationship means to you, and the way you resolve this crisis will determine how you move forward in your relationship.
2. First Fart
Seemingly trivial and gross, but the first time you let loose in front of your partner will bring your relationship to another comfort level. Many of us have learned as children that this natural act of expulsion is not appropriate in front of company, but naturally your manners relax as you get comfortable in a relationship. And it gets harder to avoid the more you and your partner spend time together. But rest assured that you're more likely to induce a laugh from your partner than scorn.
3. First Vomit
Along the same lines as your first fart, you or your partner's first vomit will open a new avenue in your relationship. Whether you're vomiting from a hangover or from the flu, this is not the most attractive side of you and you're exposing it all to your partner. It can really increase the intimacy in your relationship when your partner takes care of you while you're sick and loves you even after seeing you in your most unappealing state.
4. First Joint Purchase
Your first joint purchase as a couple can be a cat/dog, a decorative accent for your home, or even a vacation. Whatever it is, it will hold a lot of significance because it symbolizes your joint decision on something you both can enjoy. It also becomes part of your story as a couple.
5. First Time Losing Your Cool
This is another side of you or your partner that neither of you have seen before, and the first time you get a glimpse can be pretty scary. Before you run off worrying whether you're dating Jekyll and Hyde, consider the circumstances of the situation. Would you be angry or lose your cool too? Everyone tries their best to hold it together, but sometimes your emotions take over in the situation. Talking about it afterwards will help your partner process his/her feelings and help you to understand your partner's emotional state that contributed to their outburst.
6. First Time He Sees You Without Make up
This can either be a girl or guy's worse nightmare. Seeing your girlfriend without her "made up face" can be shocking, but all guys survive. Letting your guy see you without your "made up face" can be scary, but all girls survive as well. What it comes down to is that you are baring the "au naturel" side of you with all your imperfections, and it's up to him to accept you as you are.
1. First Crisis
This can be anything from losing your job, losing a family member, dealing with cheating, or being a victim of a crime. Your first crisis will truly challenge your relationship because you will need to openly communicate with your partner, but may not feel like you can. Your first crisis will also bring out how you and your partner handle stress. This is the point where serious decisions need to be made about resolving the crisis, what your partner and the relationship means to you, and the way you resolve this crisis will determine how you move forward in your relationship.
2. First Fart
Seemingly trivial and gross, but the first time you let loose in front of your partner will bring your relationship to another comfort level. Many of us have learned as children that this natural act of expulsion is not appropriate in front of company, but naturally your manners relax as you get comfortable in a relationship. And it gets harder to avoid the more you and your partner spend time together. But rest assured that you're more likely to induce a laugh from your partner than scorn.
3. First Vomit
Along the same lines as your first fart, you or your partner's first vomit will open a new avenue in your relationship. Whether you're vomiting from a hangover or from the flu, this is not the most attractive side of you and you're exposing it all to your partner. It can really increase the intimacy in your relationship when your partner takes care of you while you're sick and loves you even after seeing you in your most unappealing state.
4. First Joint Purchase
Your first joint purchase as a couple can be a cat/dog, a decorative accent for your home, or even a vacation. Whatever it is, it will hold a lot of significance because it symbolizes your joint decision on something you both can enjoy. It also becomes part of your story as a couple.
5. First Time Losing Your Cool
This is another side of you or your partner that neither of you have seen before, and the first time you get a glimpse can be pretty scary. Before you run off worrying whether you're dating Jekyll and Hyde, consider the circumstances of the situation. Would you be angry or lose your cool too? Everyone tries their best to hold it together, but sometimes your emotions take over in the situation. Talking about it afterwards will help your partner process his/her feelings and help you to understand your partner's emotional state that contributed to their outburst.
6. First Time He Sees You Without Make up
This can either be a girl or guy's worse nightmare. Seeing your girlfriend without her "made up face" can be shocking, but all guys survive. Letting your guy see you without your "made up face" can be scary, but all girls survive as well. What it comes down to is that you are baring the "au naturel" side of you with all your imperfections, and it's up to him to accept you as you are.
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